I am at a lost…. I’ve been a single mom for 17 years to 3 beautiful children. I have struggled and failed. I have worked hard and conquered. I have done everything a mother and father should do. I am far from perfect. I have made bad decisions time and time again. But one thing I’ve never done is give up on my children and I’ve never put anything before them. The worst decision so far has come into play.
My daughter is 16 and has dated a guy for the last year and half or so. Since then I have seen so many changes in her. She says I don’t know her anymore and some of that is true. I still see my little girl but she isn’t the same. I know we all change but this is different. She has been giving me hard time since the age of 12. And I know I’ve said hurtful things she has too. We cry and make up. We fight and hug it out. But this feels different. I feel this boy is manipulating her.
They lied to me about his age. I found out and still let it be cause they are in love. And I didn’t want to take that from her. I’ve set boundaries and rules. Not to hard to follow. Be out by 11 and respect my rules. I can’t help but think this boy has completely taken over her. Due to continuous rule braking I told her if she wants to be grown and not respect then she could leave. I should have never said that 😢 my little girl left. She won’t return home on her own. I could go drag her ass back home but I’m afraid it will make her draw further away from me.
I could put the boy in jail considering he will be 19 soon and they have been having sex since she was 15. But then she would hate me more. People say just wait she will realize one day. But what if that day is too late. I have never been so weak in my life. She doesn’t understand what she means to me. My only baby girl. When she left she went and told people her side and mine too of course.
And these people believe a 16 year old girl. I’m now loosing family I’m loosing friends. All cause they told her it was best not to live at home 😔 I have a man now in my life who says let her be. He doesn’t have kids so he don’t understand what it’s like. I’m not seeking sympathy or anything. I’m seeking prayer from all my strong women. Please help me stay strong dear God. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I’m not taking it well at all.